Here is a brief of French manners & customs. The French are proud of their culture and history. Be sensitive to topics of discussion, table manners, criticism of food, and politics. The French expect you to have some knowledge and a great admiration for their customs and culture. The French are mindful of their delightful food reputation and table manners are most important. The dress is often fashionable and professional, and social events are considered quite formal.

When dining out, avoid ordering a soft drink with a meal and do not put ice in your wine. The wine is usually served at the temperature designated for the wine and the occasion.

Do not ask for catsup unless you are ordering French fries. The French are proud of a wide array of fine mustards and sauces. Gratuities in France are included in the bill.

As in most European countries, with an invitation to a home comes the expectation of gift. The French have very good chocolate and of course, fine wine. If you wish to bring flowers, avoid giving a bouquet with thirteen stems as it is bad luck. Avoid purchasing chrysanthemums. When greeted or greeting, expect a light kiss or in the cheek, it as a nice French custom.

If you are invited to a home for dinner, especially on a Sunday, expect several courses and a formal setting. There will be drinks or an aperitif to begin with, then the appetizer. Do not decline to sample a food as that is considered very rude. Avoid automatically reaching for the salt and pepper; this suggests that whoever prepared the meal did not get it right. When the food is cut the fork is not then transferred to the right hand. Each bite is cut one at a time, and then eaten. It is very bad manners to cut the entire meat selection or entrée into small pieced at one time. When at the table keep both hands resting on the table at all times. Custom suggests this dates back to other ages when some guests were carrying concealed daggers, so it was a sign of trust to keep one’s hands in sight at all times.

If second helpings are offered, you should accept. By doing so, you will be considered a good guest; and in France this is important. After the entrée there will be a selection of cheeses. Save room after the appetizer and entrée to continue with good manners and sample the cheese. After this, the cheese will be a selection of desserts which may include chocolate, mousse, French pastries, and various decadent and delightful morsels.

At the end of a meal, the French often serve what is called a digestive. This may be an alcoholic beverage such as brandy or liquor, or just coffee. In France, however, it will probably not be considered just coffee. Their selections are quite impressive.